Words on The Scale✍ ⚖️

  It’s easy to look at someone’s success and assume it came to them effortlessly. We see the cars, the houses, the vacations, the confidence and we start to think, “They’re just lucky” or “Life must have been easy for them.” But what we don’t see tells a very different story. Yes, some people are born into privilege, with advantages that give them a head start. But for the majority, success is not handed over its fought for. Most people endure years of struggle. They work jobs they dislike just to pay the bills. They sacrifice time with loved ones. They push through nights of doubt, rejection, and failure. Behind every achievement lies countless unseen battles: The late nights when sleep would have been easier, but they kept working. The silent tears after setbacks that made them question everything. The tough choices between comfort today and opportunities tomorrow. The self-discipline of showing up even when motivation was gone. Yet when success finally comes, t...

Around this time August last year, I was in the market for a car. Like many people, I wanted something reliable, decent-looking, and most importantly affordable based on the money I had at hand. As I began sharing my plans, a number of friends started offering unsolicited advice. “Why not go for something bigger?” “You should do bank auto-financing!” “How can you, a Nigerian, not drive a luxury car?” Yes, these were the actual comments I received. In their eyes, a car wasn't just a means of transportation; it was a status symbol. They couldn’t understand why I would even consider buying a modest vehicle when I could take out a loan to get something more “flashy.” But I stood my ground. I chose a Renault Captur  simple, functional, and within my budget. And when the criticism came pouring in, I calmly responded: “I cut my coat according to my size. Don’t compare me with Nigerians whose source of income you don’t know.” Some people didn’t get it. To them, life is about appearan...