STOP EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM PEOPLE

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STOP EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM PEOPLE

I have come to discover that relationships are what matter in life: our relationship with God, with our spouses, children, extended family members, friends, colleagues, and other people in the community in which we live.
No one can successfully go through life without being involved in any of these relationships mentioned in the above paragraph. That is how life has been divinely designed.
It is however interesting that we allow these relationships to occupy much lower positions than they deserve on our priority lists.
Most times, due to carelessness, ignorance, and negligence, we often allow things or people to drive a wedge between ourselves and the people who are most precious to us.
We need to know how to keep strife out of our lives if we want to enjoy or maintain healthy relationships.
The fact is that every person has faults; we all have weaknesses. Only God is perfect and has no weaknesses.
We should not expect the people with whom we are in a relationship to be perfect, flawless or faultless.
No matter how great a person is, no matter how much you love him or her, if you are around that person long enough, you will have an opportunity to be offended.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, a perfect spouse, a perfect child, a perfect friend, a perfect boss, or even a perfect pastor.
People will always be people. Human beings will always be human beings. Expect people to offend you at one point or the other in your relationship with them.
Such expectations will make it easier for you to create room in your heart for forgiveness and reconciliation when and where necessary.
If we are putting unrealistic expectations on people, expecting them to always be flawless or perfect, that is being unfair to them, and it will be a frustrating experience for us. We are always going to be disappointed.
The Bible teaches that love makes allowances for people's weaknesses. Proverbs 10:12 says,
"Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins." Love covers a person's faults. In other words, you have to overlook some things.
Quit demanding perfection out of your spouse, your children, or other people with whom you are in a relationship, and learn to show a little mercy.
Don't make a big deal out of people's mistakes. There is no one that is above mistakes. Correct them in love where you need to do so and forgive.
There are some faults you may also need to overlook.
When people make mistakes, it doesn't mean something is wrong with them; they are just human.
Stop being a critical faultfinder that is keeping an account of everything people do wrong. Your relationships will suffer terribly if this is your situation.

Just Saying✨😊

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