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The Foolishness In Regret!

I have come to discover from personal experience and careful observation that virtually everyone has one or two things that they regret ever doing or saying.

I don't think there is any normal person that does not have actions or decisions they made in the past that they somehow regret today each time they remember or think about it.
However, there is a question we need to ask ourselves if we are very serious about making progress in life.
Do you think that regretting something from the past is benefiting your present existence?
The answer you give to the question above is very important.
Most people erroneously believe that if they keep regretting their past mistakes, it will somehow make them experience relief and help their lives, but how wrong can they be!
We only live once.
Life is not a dress rehearsal, so there is no time to regret it. However, this does not change the fact that we still regret certain things.
There are people that regret helping certain people that later paid them back with evil for the good they did.
There are people that regret ever trusting certain people that later showed their true colors.
There are many people that regret being involved in certain connections that went south.
There are people today who regret letting down their guard around people who betrayed them.
As much as those memories can be painful, we must not fail to tell ourselves the bitter truth. What has happened has happened. You do not help yourself by dwelling on it.
Can you imagine someone driving a car while his or her focus is on the rearview mirror? You don't need any prophet or seer to tell you what the outcome will be for that person and the car.
That is the pathetic situation of someone who is spending his or her time regretting their past mistakes.
The truth is we can spend all day regretting it, but it is not going to change anything.
What then can we actually do to minimize our chances of experiencing regret?
The first step is to understand that any amount of resentment, frustration, bitterness, and sadness is not going to get us out of regretting something. In fact, this is only going to make matters worse.
Holding onto our regret really does drain the energy out of us.
In order to overcome regret we have to accept what is and remind ourselves that it holds no benefit to us or our future.
As a mental exercise, you can imagine it’s your last day on earth and think about your regrets. Do you have any? If you do, then this little mental exercise can serve as a reminder to really take action and focus on the things you really want to do in your life.
Maybe you regret not doing more of the things you love. The Solution? Start doing more of the things you love.
Maybe you regret not spending enough quality time with the people you love the most. The solution? Start making time for the people you cherish the most.
Maybe you regret not starting that idea which could earn you a living. The solution? Start working on that idea right away.
There is usually always a solution to our regrets. And if there isn’t? Well, then we have to accept the fact that we can’t change it. We have to live with that regret and focus our energy on something else.
Let go of the baggage you are holding onto and in that way, you can move on with your life and forget about it.
It is best if we forgive ourselves for our mistakes because we all make them from time to time.
If there is a need for you to repent and straighten things with God. Don't hesitate to do so. But never make the mistake of perpetually regretting what you have done.
Try to imagine Paul the apostle spending the central part of his life regretting the things he did as Saul of Tarsus. Do you think he would have made the rapid progress he made in the ministry? His testimony is clearly written in Philippians 3:13-14.
It is stupidity in collaboration with ignorance to keep regretting something God has forgiven and forgotten.
Forgive yourself and surrender to the fact that you made mistakes which is not peculiar to you anyway. Continually beating yourself up over past mistakes is of course insanity, so you don’t ‘need’ to do that.
Regretting something holds no benefit to your present and future. Regret is nothing but a waste of time and valuable energy.
You could expend that same energy on something more beneficial to your life and destiny.
You must learn how to move on. Let your motto be "WE MOVE."
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