Hey You, Who Feels Unlovable

I’ve had countless conversations with people—friends, acquaintances, strangers who felt safe enough to be vulnerable—and there’s something I keep noticing. A quiet fear so many of us carry. It doesn’t always get voiced out loud, but it’s there, lingering beneath the surface:

“What if no one could ever love me?”

Not because of something specific they’ve done, but because they feel too broken.
Too much.
Not enough.
Flawed in some way that feels beyond repair.

And here's the thing this fear doesn’t just show up in romantic spaces. It seeps into every kind of connection: friendships, family, even how people relate to themselves. It’s the belief that because they’ve been hurt, struggled, or made mistakes, they’re somehow unworthy of love, care, or deep, safe connection.

That breaks my heart.
Because it’s just not true.

There’s this idea floating around that we need to be completely healed to deserve good things. That unless we’ve sorted every wound, every insecurity, every piece of past pain, we have to sit on the sidelines of life and love. But friend, that belief is a lie. Healing is a journey, not a prerequisite for love.

Being hurt, even deeply being broken in ways you don’t fully understand yet does not make you unlovable.

You are not too much. You are not too complicated. You are not too damaged.
You are human. And humans were made for connection.

You don’t need to have it all together to be worthy of love. You don’t need to be "perfect" to be accepted. You need people who see your pain and don’t flinch. People who lean in, not away. People who understand that even shattered souls can shine. That broken doesn’t mean beyond repair it means real, raw, and still capable of holding beauty.

Let’s unlearn this idea that we have to earn our right to be loved by being whole.

Let’s remind ourselves and each other that love isn’t something reserved for the flawless.
It’s something that meets us exactly where we are and walks with us through the mess.

So, if you’ve ever thought, “I’m too broken for anyone to love,”
I want you to hear this: You are not.
You are deeply worthy of love, connection, and the kind of people who choose to stay.

Always.

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