The Scales ⚖️✍

Nigerian social media relationship timeline is starting to look like a weekly series nobody asked for. 4 weeks ago it was Roby Ekpo, Last week Ugo took the spotlight. This week Frank has entered the ring like it’s a championship fight. At this point, it’s no longer “marriage issues”  it’s becoming a rotating cast of emotional reality TV, where every episode starts with “we were happy” and ends with “screenshots have entered the chat.” And somehow, people keep trying to turn it into a universal rulebook like: “this is what women do” or “this is what men should do.” That’s where it gets messy. Because the moment you start generalising half the human population based on three trending stories, you’ve already lost the plot. Even the Garden of Eden reference people love to bring up doesn’t help the argument the way they think it does. That story isn’t about blaming one side  it’s about choice, consequences, and accountability on both ends. Not a gender thesis. And the i...

  One of the easiest mistakes people make is falling in love with potential before they have truly understood reality. Sometimes we meet someone, feel a spark, enjoy the attention, and before long we are already imagining a future. In our minds, we begin creating stories that have not happened yet. We start picturing plans, commitment, loyalty, and forever all while still knowing very little about the person standing in front of us. The truth is, attraction can happen quickly. Excitement can happen instantly. But understanding someone takes time. You do not really know a person simply because conversations feel good. You do not know them because they say the right things. You do not know them because the chemistry feels strong. Real understanding comes from watching patterns. How do they spend their time when no one is watching? How do they handle stress, disappointment, and inconvenience? How do they speak about people who are no longer useful to them? Do their actions stay consis...