STOP THE BLAME GAME

If you are the type that constantly looks for someone to blame for everything that goes wrong around you or with you, then I will tell you for free that you are an unserious student in the school of progress.

I have noticed it is much easier and very convenient to put blame on people than for us to take responsibility and make amends where necessary.

It is straightforward to throw blame but very difficult to take responsibility. So, instead of taking responsibility, we choose the easier path which is to lay blame.

So many people blame their parents, their spouses, their friends, the government, the weather, the devil, and interestingly themselves for so many things that went wrong in their lives. 

However, the truth is none of those people are to blame. Because no one can make you do anything you don't want to do. 

People may give suggestions to you on what to do; they may advise you to do it, they may even put pressure on you to do it, but you still have the power to say, "No I'm not going to do it" not minding the consequences.

For example, your boss in the office may offer to sleep with you for a raise. As a child of God, you lie if you say you have no choice. 

You actually have a choice. You can say "No" and lose that offer. Is it not better to lose such an offer than to lose your eternity?

Pastor, you don't have to blame Sister Sophia for your moral failure. 

She may have enticed or seduced you truly as you claimed, but you also failed to set boundaries when you should have done so. You stayed put when you are supposed to have Japa. That's why you got carried away.

Stop saying you never had a choice. You did. You just weren't willing to exercise that choice. That's the truth. So stop looking for who to blame.

Let me ask you a sincere question. Since you have been blaming people, has it solved the problem? Have you now become better? So why not save your breath?

You must be ready to take responsibility for your decisions and bear the consequences of the same. That is the mark of maturity. 

Take responsibility for your shortcomings and make amends where necessary and you will do better.

He who keeps looking for who to blame will remain lame.

Just Saying

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