7-Things To Do Before You Quit That Relationship

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I have discovered from my own personal research that people give up good relationships/friendships that could have brought joy, if well managed just for flimsy excuses. I decided to give hints on what to ponder before you decide to quit that relationship. There's no perfect human, hence no perfect marriage, no perfect relationship. In as much as there'll be good times, there are also going to be bad times. But wait a minute, do you have to quit in that bad and trying time of your relationship? So before you quit any relationship, have these to ponder;

1. WILL IT GIVE YOU PEACE

If doing it will make you rest of mind and you are okay with that, then go ahead and walk away.

2. ARE YOU DOING IT BECAUSE FRIENDS WANT YOU TO»
Don't quit a good relationship all because your friends want you to. He that wears the shoe, knows where it pitches him. Find out first if they are speaking out of jealousy. If they have good reasons and you see it with them, then the choice is all yours, at the end of the day, it's always good to follow ur heart.
3. IS HE/SHE READY TO CHANGE AND MAKE AMEND»
Find out if he or she can change that habit that pisses you off. It's better you sort it out. Don't ever pretend to like some character he/she possesses with the mind you will sort it out when you get married. I have heard of a day-old marriage that ended in divorce. Here's the story: this lady was dating a chain smoker guy. The guy's philosophy was, 'the lady I will get married to will help me change this habit. But here comes this lady who pretends she's okay with it. She even helped him at times to lite the lighter. On their wedding night, this guy brought out his normal, favorite cigarette to smoke and heard the girl say, 'honey you have to quit smoking cos I don't like em'. In that case, what would you do? That marriage is one of the shortest in history because it ended that night. If you find anything that irritates you, talk about it now, but if its something you can cope with, then the choice is all yours
4. IS HE/SHE SEEING SOMEONE ELSE?
On no account should your spouse cheat on you. If he or she could do it once, he or she can as well do it even if you are married. The choice is yours if you still desire to hold on to that relationship.
5. IS HE/SHE READY FOR MARRIAGE?>
This point is very vital. Find out if he/she is ready to settle down with you. Don't be held up for too long knowing your spouse is not ready for you. Don't be his showgirl when he is not ready, because you will definitely miss the good guy who is probably saying she's taken. Ask him or her now before you move on.
6. HAVE YOU SOUGHT COUNSEL?
Seek counsel from those ahead of you, who are having a good relationship. Don't seek counsel from one who is struggling with his own relationship.
7. HAVE YOU PRAYED ABOUT IT?
Yea talks to God about it before you make a decision to quitting. Yeah, He has the answer to all situations including your relationship.
I hope these hints I have given will help you before you take that giant step.
Make your decision today and move on.
Have a good relationship, have a good marriage.

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