Soft Hearts in a Hard World

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The worst way to live is to pour love into everyone else while never learning how to receive it.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot.

From the moment we are born, love is not a luxury it is a need. Before we learn strength, independence, or pride, we learn longing. We grow into our bodies shaped by family, experiences, mistakes, survival, and circumstance, but one thing never changes: the desire to be loved, seen, and held emotionally.

Somewhere along the way, many of us get hurt. Sometimes deeply. Sometimes repeatedly. We are betrayed by people we trusted, disappointed by those we expected to protect us, abandoned by those who promised to stay. Slowly, quietly, we learn to guard our hearts. We call it maturity. We call it strength. We convince ourselves we no longer need what once broke us.

But trauma does not erase human needs.

No matter how strong I become, no matter how mature I appear, the desire to be loved never disappears. It only hides. We bury it under achievements, distractions, humor, silence, or pride. We pretend we are fine on our own. Yet deep down, no one truly wants to grow old feeling unseen and emotionally alone.

What hurts the most is realizing that some people carry an endless capacity to love. They give freely. They show up fully. They care deeply. Yet the world rarely meets them with the same tenderness. To have so much love inside you and nowhere safe to place it is a quiet kind of heartbreak. It doesn’t scream. It doesn’t demand attention. It just sits there, heavy and unresolved.

And for many of us, that is our reality.

Learning to receive love is just as important as learning to give it. It requires unlearning fear. It requires vulnerability. It requires believing again that softness is not weakness and that we deserve the same care we offer others.

As this new year begins, I’m choosing something different. I’m choosing to open my heart not just to give, but to receive. To allow love to meet me where I am. To believe that I, too, am worthy of gentleness, patience, and emotional safety.

Happy New Year to everyone reading this.
May this year teach us not only how to love others better, but how to finally accept love for ourselves. ✨

Comments

  1. AnonymousJanuary 1, 2026 at 4:59 PM

    Impressive 🙏🏽

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 2, 2026 at 10:55 AM

    Very true, sometimes i feel the same way and said to myself its unfair

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  3. KarenJanuary 2, 2026 at 10:58 AM

    No matter how hard we try to harden our hearts as they do. I find i just cannot do it. My heart is big. for all people.

    ReplyDelete

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