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THE QUESTION IS WHY? One of the toughest questions we hear today is, "Why?" In life's pathway, we look at the good and the bad, always with the same question, "WHY?" We see the pain, the hurt, and the suffering in today's world. We ask ourselves, "WHY?" We see men's trials, the temptations, the injustices, the cruelties, the unfairness, the inequities, and we ask, "WHY?" We see some men conquer their fears and overcome great obstacles. We see lowly men rise to prestigious positions. We see others who falter and can't keep a job or their self-respect. "WHY?" We see the joy in a parent's eyes as they view their first-born child. We see the hurt in the eyes of the parents of a stillborn. "WHY?" We see the joy in the family whose loved one has survived a major illness. We see the pain in the family whose loved one didn't survive. "WHY?" "WHY?" "WHY?" I don't have an adequa...

This is based on my own experience as a man, I didn't copy it from anywhere so anybody is free to air their view or counter me. Dis is a public forum so I no send a grin Now there are many things ladies don't know abt us guys. Dis has led to a lot of misconception and disenchantment from both sexes. I read a lot of comments here and I realize that most ladies don't know anything about d makeup of a man. I believe that the ladies will learn a lot if they realize some basic truths about us. 1. Men don't want only sex from you: many ladies believe or think that the only thing guys want from dem is sex. Dis is why they go into a relationship with that resource only as wat they are bringing on board hoping dat the guy will do anything for dem as long as he's getting sex. This is wrong. Men may like sex but it's not d only thing they like or want in a relationship. A guy needs a lady who will understand him, who can stand by him and encourage him to reach his full pot...

STOP EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM PEOPLE I have come to discover that relationships are what matter in life: our relationship with God, with our spouses, children, extended family members, friends, colleagues, and other people in the community in which we live. No one can successfully go through life without being involved in any of these relationships mentioned in the above paragraph. That is how life has been divinely designed. It is however interesting that we allow these relationships to occupy much lower positions than they deserve on our priority lists. Most times, due to carelessness, ignorance, and negligence, we often allow things or people to drive a wedge between ourselves and the people who are most precious to us. We need to know how to keep strife out of our lives if we want to enjoy or maintain healthy relationships. The fact is that every person has faults; we all have weaknesses. Only God is perfect and has no weaknesses. We should not expect the people with whom we are in ...

Let me give you some sincere advice if you are serious about making headway in life. This is advice worth taking if you are not joking about your decision to go far in life. Surround yourself with people who encourage you, I mean people who build you up. I mean people who have words of encouragement for you almost every time. Certainly, you need people who will be honest enough to tell you the truth when you are making a poor choice or taking a wrong step. It is dangerous to surround yourself only with "Yes men" who will never see anything wrong in all that you do and always urge you to "carry go" even when you are on the highway to hell. However, the fact also remains that you must not tolerate a set of negative, cynical, and critical people. I mean people who are always ready to tell you the 99 reasons why an idea won't work instead of the one reason why it can work. Be wary of people who focus more on what is wrong with you than what is right with you. You wo...

  Why is Africa still waiting for God? <<<Real Olufemi>>> As I was preparing to go to bed yesterday, July 19, 2022, I made a last attempt for the day to keep myself updated with the latest happenings across the globe. In the course of doing that, I stumbled upon an article on the Internet titled, “Africa – Are We Still Waiting for God?” The writer, who questioned our over-emphasis on religion as the pathway to the continent's growth concluded with the question, ‘Why is Africa still waiting for God? As I ruminated over his rhetorical question, I began a soul search. I asked myself, “How long will we continue to fail, using God as an excuse for our woes while we ‘pass the buck to him?’. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not denying that we can trust in God for all things, I just need us to realize the fact that God has already given us the power to do all things. This implies that our God-given sense of reason and logic should motivate us to take personal actions rather than ...

I have come to a strong conclusion from personal experience and by careful observation that for you to get to where God is taking you in life; certain people have to leave your life. Permit me to tell you that in order for you to get to that great height God has prepared specially for you; there are certain people that must walk out of your life. There are times that the greatest blessing you can receive from God is when some people leave your life. However, the interesting and pathetic thing is that most of us hold tenaciously unto those people that we should let go. There is something I humorously call the "gift of goodbye". Don't be stingy with that gift when people choose to leave your life. When somebody who is pulling you down chooses to leave your life, you may not realize it initially, but that person just did you a great favour. Don't look back on such an occasion; instead keep looking forward and you will see and experience the new thing God wants to do in y...

Sometimes, if not most times, what holds people back from pursuing their vision and purpose in life is not the lack of SKILL but the lack of WILL. It is not the absence of superior ABILITIES but the presence of an inferior MENTALITY that has debarred many people from pursuing their dreams of greatness. Many talented people have failed simply because they lacked the will and the drive to do or start something with their talents. Some who started something later stopped midway because they lacked the will to go further when they faced challenges. Many people with fantastic ideas have been frustrated because of a lack of tenacity. Stop waiting for someone somewhere to inspire you; because they may not. Can I shock you a little? There are times that those you are expecting to inspire you may even be the ones trying to demoralize you. This is why you must make up your mind that you will do something meaningful with your life by God's grace upon you. To your talents, add skill, to your s...

Super strict parents create monsters they can’t handle. Parents’ fears actually become a reality without realizing it. Under strict parenting. Kids maneuverer to being pathological liars to escape their parent's strictness. Experience low self-esteem as they get punished twice more. The very same girls who were never allowed to go out to build social cycle or had to obey early curfews. Such girls got pregnant first. There are many children who have the best careers. Best houses. Best everything that doesn’t make them happy deep down. Because it was for the fulfillment of parents’ happiness but not theirs. Kids become emotionally neglected. Meaning they fail to understand and control their own feelings. Ultimately affects the ability to form friendships and relationships. They’ll be raising their own children the same way they were raised as that’s the only way they know unless they realize the relationship with their parents was toxic. Super strict parents raise rebels. Introverts...

  9 signs the person you're dating is right for you 1. They pass the 'bar test' "As simple as this may seem,I call it the bar test  to know if you're with the right person. When you're at a bar (or restaurant, wherever) with your new partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there or who might see you two together? Or, are you perfectly content with your partner, and you want everyone there to notice you with him/her? If the latter is true, then he/she passes the test. But if it's the former, it might be time to decide whether being in a relationship with this person is your best option." 2. They don't hold you back "A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won't feel the need to hold you back. Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner. Dating someone who is happy with their life means they can be happy for you and alongside you." 3. Th...